Today's before and after. No editing, just true, honest me. I'm a mum of two, I don't sleep, I work way too much, I worry even more. I'm currently in week three of a huge detox and my health has been better. And it shows on my face, my skin is breaking out. But, I care very little about that.
I haven't always been so self accepting, and I must admit I used to hide behind makeup when I was younger. I've always beaten myself up about my weight. I was bulimic as a teen. I've said ugly, horrible things to myself. But, since having my daughters I have changed a lot. Their utter acceptance of who they are as human beings is so incredibly inspiring. It's them who have taught me about self love. It's their unconditional love for me that has made me realise that I do have value, and to them I am perfect. More importantly, I came to the realisation that the way I treat myself is an example to them.
Since having my babies, I have become so passionate about self love and dissolving illusions about makeup and why women wear it. We are constantly bombarded with unrealistic and unattainable expectations of how we are supposed to look by celebrities and advertising. Yes I edit my Instagram feed, just like a glossy magazine edits their already perfect models. I do this because it's my art, it's not because I'm ashamed of who I am.
When it comes to makeup I'm all about empowering women and teaching them how taking that time for themselves is ok. It's totally fine to wear none too, I rarely wear makeup unless I'm working. I'm bare faced at school drop offs, and to be honest most of the other mums are too. It's so incredibly important to be proud of who you are and what our "imperfections" represent. I have severe dark circles because I haven't slept for 5 years, and I'm gonna wear that shit like a badge of honour - and so should you.
I think this post is less about makeup, and a lot about self acceptance. I want to break down barriers and have transparency when it comes to realistic expectations of how women are perceived, and how we perceive ourselves. Have you been kind to yourself today?
NZ based hair and makeup artist, Mum, wife, beauty blogger, & advocate for self acceptance & empowering women.